Dear Paul B,
You must help me decide what to do. I am trying to do the right thing for everyone here, and it ain’t easy. I have always tried to respect all of my family, friends and neighbors. I am halfway through my life, and I am so miserable. My wife doesn’t accept everyone like I do. When I invite a neighbor over, if she isn’t very smart, or have real nice clothing, then she is cold as a fish. If that person drives a fancy car or wears designer clothes, then she is welcome. I don’t judge people by anything materialistic. My friends are teachers, or mechanics, or clerks from the stores in my area. My wife will give them the cold shoulder when they are over. I hate all of her friends because they are snobs, and are rude people. My three girls have become like my wife, and it is really sad. They look at peoples’ wealth first. Is it too late to get out of it?
K B
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Dear KB,
What you have asked me is quite complex. You have raised three kids (ages unknown) and have been married for some time (unknown.) I don’t think it is ever “too late” to correct a bad decision. Life, at any age, is a gift, and if you are so unhappy with your “lot in life,” then you need to try to improve your situation. I am uncertain about you and your “better half,” so you should speak to a counselor together about your differences. There are many options here, so please exploit them before any conclusions can be decided. Marriage is one tough job. Just remember KB, this is the “real deal,” and no rehearsal. Please make no rash decisions, but don’t worry about neighbors or relatives-This is YOUR LIFE!
Paul B
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