American women, who trail men when it comes to making money, leading companies and accumulating wealth, are closing the gap on at least one measure: cheating on their spouses (Over the last two decades: 40 percent increase of wives answering they’ve cheated. Scarlet Fu reports on Bloomberg Television’s “Market Makers.”
Dear Paul B,
I am thirty-three, single, and I thought I always would be. A man came into my life just nine months ago, and we are so much in love. He and I are soul-mates, and I think about him always. He is a manager at my work (I do not report to him,) and we see each other for lunch, and even before work. He is married for two years, but loves me so much, that he is moving in with me soon. My parents think it is so wrong, and that I should not be with him. He says that his wife forced him to marry him (because she got pregnant,) and that he never loved her. My friends aren’t real crazy about him, but does it matter? All that matters is my feelings. What if I never find love again? It’s not like a merry-go-round. Some people NEVER find love EVER. I hear things about his carousing, but that was when he was young. He’s twenty-four now, and very responsible. I will marry him soon.
Eve
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Dear Eve,
You have made up your mind, or so it seems. I don’t care that you are thirty-three or that he is now a twenty-four year old “grown-up.” I don’t think that either of you make much sense. You are the pro-typical rebel without a cause. Your folks love you, and most likely your friends as well. They don’t want you to be another notch with this irresponsible dolt. He has one HUGE CHARACTER FLAW, and that is his ego, which rivals the humongous state of Texas. He cheats on his wife (and child,) so how can you trust him? Why would you trust him? He seems to use people, and you will just be another “notch” in his belt. If anything, you should not live with a married man. How would you like to be his wife? How would you like to be his child? You have to think this through…You seem to be grasping at straws here. This is your first “love,” and most likely not your last. I cannot guarantee that you will meet a wonderful man next week, but this guy will hurt you. Take your time…please. Wasting the next three or four years with this “cheater” will only leave you angry, hurt, and lonely once again, not to mention four years older….
Paul B
Music video by Rihanna performing Unfaithful. (C) 2006 The Island Def Jam Music Group.
Keyshia Cole – I Should Have Cheated (BET Version).
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Chicky poo..you sound like a complete idiot, and make women look bad. In the 1st place, what are you doing with a 24 year old, who got someone pregnant?
How old are you again? You act like you are 16.
Seriously, you need a little reality check. Neither of you apparently know what the word LOVE means, or you would not be dating a married man, and your married man would not be philandering.
Its not like you are 90. Wait until you find the real thing, as Paul suggests.