FACEBOOK CHEATER?
Dear Paul,
Our computer age has taken on the face of marriage wrecker. Gina and I “were” very happy together, and then she discovered an “ex lover” from high school through facebook. He had become quite wealthy and was now divorced. Gina has been a facebook addict from day one, and claims to have 2383 “friends.” This whole FaceBook Fantasy is so addictive and childish, I feel like this is a cruel nightmare but it is reality. Gina met with this man (and I found out from her best-friends husband) and I am ready to leave her. I am not a facebook fan, and I believe that this forum creates a “playground” for people who don’t want to grow up! facebook has ruined my marriage, and I just want to warn people that this can indeed happen to them as well. Beware!!
Frankie
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Dear Frankie,
You can’t be serious!! This is the most far-fetched fable that I have ever encountered. You cannot blame facebook for your wife’s philandering. You didn’t tell me if she slept with this ex. You also didn’t tell me if you have seen a marriage counselor. I also feel that if someone wants to “play the field,” they will find a partner WITHOUT FACEBOOK!! I know nothing about you or Gina, but if you had a stable marriage, communicate often and honestly, then facebook, or living next door to Tom Cruise should not affect your relationship!
Paul B.
WHERE’S THE BEEF? IN YOUR CORONARY ARTERIES!
Dear Paul B,
I know that you like to help people with their probs (thanks for telling my Mom–it’s helped a lot,) but this one may be a bit silly. My Dad (who is 51 and is 70-80 lbs. overweight) eats meat all the time. He insists that we have meat for every meal. I told him that he has a death wish, and he told me that I am completely wrong- and that “I pay the bills.” I really love him (his Dad and 3 brothers died before 61) and don’t want him to check out early. Am I crazy?
Ann,
Dear Ann,
I know your family, and I do indeed agree with you (once again.) Some people seem to avoid meeting the grim reaper from their fat laden diet, but overall, its a combo of DNA, exercise and diet (or lack of these 3.) I believe that we need moderation in our diets (fish, some dairy, meat on occasion and lots of veggies and fruits.) If you alter this balance too much, you’re playing with fire. I know you love your Dad, and he really needs to follow a strict diet, especially with his frightening family history. He has a family history of early death, and he is ignoring it (oh, he is entirely different than his Dad and bro’s!) You’re a great daughter. Show him this!!
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